Strength in Weakness

The best way to find strength in weakness is to turn pain into purpose by in whatever way you were disadvantaged, using it as a means to guide others out of those same scenarios.

Know how to find strength in weakness, for example if a man who was molested as a little boy, abandoned by his parents and faced many other challenges, grew up and found pleasure in deceiving women and running from one to the other, at times juggling more than one in search to fulfill an “unusual desire” caused by the same childhood trauma this is an example of not facing your fears and addressing them by seeking healing and using the experience of having gone through to guide others through. So the cycle continues, as another child will be born, and left to be raised by an unhealed individual or couple still dealing with promiscuity from either party or both in some cases.

People who are not matured in the Lord tend to hold on to parents and loved ones that have passed away for so long that they begin cheating themselves of the fullness of enjoyment that life can give them. Mourning loss for too long, whether intentionally or not, is a sin that affects the entire household because it can cause a man or woman to abandon their child or children, as a reaction to the abandonment they felt and still feel. A reflection of strength in weakness is doing the opposite of what was done to you, or ensuring nobody in your circle feels the way you felt concerning whatever it is. Everyone struggled differently.

It is always harder when things are done to men because their ego stands in the way of their healing, the process of growth and transformation. I am a female but can understand only by the grace given to me, especially as I am living through a Marriage that has loopholes, hence asked the Lord for answers regarding the behavioural patterns of my spouse, who has not yet arrived at the place of presenting his childhood scars to be dressed so that he can be healed and free of blemish, emotionally and spiritually. 

Men are thought not to open up about certain things whereas a woman will faster reach a stage of maturity where she will open up, speak on the things she struggled with regarding what was done to her, and even become an advocate for that area of suffering. Men that are touched prematurely, whether pressured into it or because of a parent’s negligence, wind up to be walking disasters concerning every aspect of marriage and relationships. On the other hand those that were not given due care will leave their families to face the same sufferings in whatever way they felt afflicted.

If men can live out their entire lives “living a lie” they would rather do that than finding true strength in weakness. They were taught from children to hide and not speak up so that is what they will bring into a relationship, deceit. 

This is not good, we need to teach all of our children male and female, to be open at all times, by providing them with a trusted and safe environment where they can fully express themselves to avoid life long trauma. It would be even better to protect them in such a way that they are not open to being malhandled from an early age. Both genders are just as important and should be treated equally as children.

Men are under scrutiny mainly for their disloyal behavior, others for their inability to provide, but we have to look at the fact that God placed them as the leaders in every marital home, therefore the attacks against them will be greater, as the enemy who is after families understands that a corrupted head will have a dysfunctional body. One of his main aims is to scatter the home, so we have to be proactive knowing that men are born leaders in one way or the other, hence should be thoroughly protected from an early age.

Wisdom in Christ is a requirement in finding strength in weakness and also in making the right decisions throughout our lives, especially in the area of relationships. A lot of people are married to unhealed people with childhood scars that they are trying to take to the grave with them, not wanting to open up in fear of being judged, ridiculed and marginalized. Therefore people have to be a spouse and a counsellor altogether, which not everyone has the patience or grace for, hence people can swiftly grow apart, in a desire to seek a healed vessel to be joined with, or simply be left alone to fulfill their own journey in the Lord.

Father, my prayer today is for every form of deception that stands against the healing process of your people be brought to the forefront and dealt with, give them strength in what appeared to be weakness in Jesus mighty name.